Relationships. Ever since graduating from high-school last year, I continue to witness more and more people getting into them. It seems to be somewhat of a domino effect; one friend uploads a new relationship status on Facebook, (gains 100 likes) and within a week or so, one of their close friends shares that they too are in a relationship. Some may suggest that it’s only a coincidence, but I think it’s more than that.
After our final exams, I found out that one of my closest friends had got herself a boyfriend. No one saw it coming, no one ever would have seen them ending up together. But they did. I was absolutely shocked when I found out as she was the type of friend who would ask people questions like, How do you know if a guy likes you? Or make statements about how she caught her crush looking at her in sport. To be quite honest, I had always thought that I would end up in a relationship before her. I feel bad for having thought that because who am I to judge? Who am I to believe that I am more ready to be in a relationship than someone else? Who am I to decide who ends up with whom? It’s really up to God isn’t it.
I’ve come to understand that God has made one special individual for each of us. God only knows when, where and how we’ll come to meet them- but he sure knows. Just because others around us race to get into relationships or legitimately find their “other-half” it doesn’t mean that we have to feel pressured or unloved just because we ourselves aren’t in them. I have a Pinterest board filled with beautiful quotes and one of my favourites reads,
“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek him just to find her”
When I realise how far behind I am in comparison to the majority of my friends, I realise that being in a relationship doesn’t make you more accomplished. I realise that it doesn’t make you a winner or in comparison a loser. I believe that regardless of what you do or where you go, if it’s God’s will, he will make it happen. Some say it’s fate, but I say it’s God.
Lamentations 3:25 The LORD is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him.